Including the subtle attempts.

Like putting cis or other women in quotes (a clear negation of the existence of my womanhood and the cis/trans axis of oppression)

Like telling me I have male privilege (a clear degendering that denies me resources necessary to survive and thrive like any woman but worse since cissexism amplifies the misogyny I face. Aka I wish that male priv every idiot thinks I have was around each of the times I got sexually assaulted. Including sometimes by cis women who wanted to see if my breasts were real)

Denying me my right to self defense

Treating my venting as inherently violent when the power dynamic between me and cis people wouldn’t allow such a thing. I simply do not have the power to back up violence against cisness. The vice versa is horrifyingly able to perpetrate violence against me tho.

Throwing around any socialization on me that I do not mark myself with (another degendering element, especially since it’s an attempt to mark me with male privilege, even tho, yanno trans women who do have the sort of socialization that a cis radscum would mark as “male socialization” still are more oppressed than cis women due to misogyny + cissexism and ergo lack male privilege on top of lacking cis privilege)

Cuz it’s draining. It’s draining and harmful and I really need a break from my humanity being stripped of me. No matter how politely the fuckers who do it speak, it’s still the same shit. Still the same harm.

So I’m thinking about self care now and whether it’s time to adjust my methods of caring for me.