I wrote a post about so called “women born women” spaces.
Let me make this chrystal clear:
Anything that provides a service, like a shelter, isn’t what I meant. Battered women’s shelters are for all women. I wasn’t referring to safe spaces. Anything that women might need. Anything that ISN’T just a social meeting shouldn’t be able to discriminate against any trans women.
I wrote that post after seeing an argument break out about Michfest, and a specifically a few other festival/meet ups like it, where a few feminists who made the group were getting berated by trans women who wanted the address for the meeting. They were trying to say they weren’t being transphobic for saying it was a cis women’s meet-up. And I saw their point - because wanting to meet up with people who have VERY similar experiences isn’t discriminating against other groups who don’t share that. It’s not saying they’re not women, just that they wanted to have a meeting with people who they had similarities to.
And now I feel like a bit of a tool. Because shelters aren’t what I’m talking about. I see why people thought it was ironic that I got yelled at and nearly arrested for using the bathroom. That type of thing isn’t what I was talking about.
And, on top of that, I saw a lot of people getting angry at me.
In my (albeit, clearly errant) mind, I saw my post to mean what I was talking about in my mind: that a group of cis women who had similar experiences would want to meet up and share those experiences. But I worded it poorly.
In any case, I made a HUGE error.
Lots of people got angry. And I saw that valid anger as male privilege seeping through when you were angry that it looked like (again, entirely my fault) I was posting about trans* women being thrown out of safe spaces, bathrooms, and public spaces, like that was somehow OK.
I am sorry.
I am my own editor, and that was worded about as horribly as possible.
My post about spaces for cis women was supposed to be about cis women being allowed to meet other cis women without it being called transphobic. I was an arrogant fool when I thought people who were angry with me about this were just showing internalized male privilege when they were fighting against oppression we’ve all felt.
I am sorry. If I ever write something that seems transphobic in the way that was, please contact me. If I’d known that was how it was coming across I would have edited it immediately. I am SO sorry to all those who I offended.
I *still* don’t understand why you think it’s okay to have an oppressor group be able to hold meetings that prohibit those from a group they benefit from the oppression of from attending?
(And yes, because I’m a person of colour, I can make this analogy) Take this for example: