holeycynicism:

True enough. It can also be a sign they don’t like something about you, or that they’re in the wrong. I try to pay attention, though.

Good good. That’s pretty much all anyone can do.

“Drawing attention to it?”

If you mean the guy who’s femmy and has a lisp (the “fabulous” archetype) that’s just someone being themselves. It’s no different than me wearing my fauxmilitary jacket or you listening to music you like.

Self expression is not rubbing your face in it. It’s just being.

I agree in part. Being black and straight, I have way more experience with the black token than the gay token, so that’s coloring my response. Sometimes self-expression is just being, sometimes is projecting. Or maybe I just don’t like hanging out with the “fabulous” / femmy types. 

Ever wonder why you wouldn’t wanna hang out with them? Self expression is never projecting, when someone is trying to make a point or get in someone’s face, they’re no longer just expressing. I just think way too many people mistake self expression for pushing.

I’m not really surprised, considering I’m politically and socially conservative, and an evangelical seminary student. You might though. I’m not really that bad in person.

That and the internet is rarely the best indicator as to whether someone is fun. XD

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