February 2012
blacksheepboy- replied to your post: I’ve got some complicated feelings about ftmtf trans folks, Leslie Feinberg, political vs. personal, appropriation, trans guys in women only spaces, cafab trans privilege, camab trans targeting and exclusion, the term trans misogyny and other related stuff.
what about leslie feinberg? like have they (not sure what pronouns they prefer) said anything...
lucypaw:
blinkpink:
bobies:
lol please unfollow me if you think trans peoples bodies are an ok punchline for a joke
Or fat bodies. Or disabled bodies.
Or pretty much any kind of body ever.
Yes, please do.
That was some shaky ass upset word vomit.
Shit’s been building up for a while and I needed to vent.
People keep asking me, "kinsey, why do you walk...
Cuz it’s too fucking much.
I’m exhausted because so much of my fucking energy goes into survival and did even before I became homeless and now things are a million times more fucked.
And I just wanna be able to fucking relax with the people I care about.
I wanna relax and not get called him or he or hear the word “tranny” or “crazy” or get told to get back in...
And I got "close friends" making excuses for...
Not a single one of them has gone through abuse either and I’m getting tired of putting myself out there and the shit I went through as a learning experience for these fuckers.
My brain's still pretty fogged out and I don't...
Shit is just so fucked right now that I haven’t been able to concentrate on the more complex questions over concentrating on how much longer I can survive on what I got left and whether food stamps will come quick enough.
I didn't stay over at the fwb's place cuz parking...
They like to clamp your car tire instead of just ticketing you and seriously, I can’t afford a ticket anyways.
When it warms up I’ll start parking further away where I won’t get dicked over by cops and walk to her place.
grrspit:
milkeemountainmama:
i mean, i want to make it clear—I don’t support what that man did for one second.
but i really need to parse out all these dynamics in how The Internet (tm) talks about parents and parenting…and how we feel protective of a presumably white girl but don’t really notice or actually enjoy when a black boy gets his ass whupped….and how little interrogation there is of...
Also I really should go meet up with my fwb and...
And watch movies and snuggle. Cuz I need some snuggles.
I've got some complicated feelings about ftmtf...
And I can’t seem to pull my thoughts together about any of it right now.
Buuuuh. Too many feelings.
Endo isn't covered but could be temporarily...
Costs every six months is around 85 bucks. Still finding out if I can get a sliding scale with him too like I did with my chiro.
TW: Confessions of A Bad Daughter With Bad Parents
janedoe225:
anedumacation:
karnythia:
My mother doesn’t love me. She never did & probably never could. But she says she does, because no one ever tells people that they don’t love their kids. She would say (if you asked her), lots about respect and whatever. And some of it would even sound logical as long as you didn’t know what goes on when no strangers around and she’s not putting on a...
I hate it when I open up a new post on tumblr, get...
Work with me, brain. FFS
Dear Other White Trans (and Queer) People
logiccontroldeck:
I have been looking around our communities lately. I’ve been taking a long, hard look around when I’m out at my favorite queer-friendly restaurant or bar. I’ve been looking around at the online communities. I have to tell you that I’ve been noticing a pattern. It’s a pattern of whiteness. I’ve started a tally you see. I’ve counted how many people of color I see in places that...
Standing Up Against a Threat to Indian Country -... →
adailyriot:
Montana’s Indian country is sacred ground for all of the Big Sky’s tribes. Tribal lands safeguard and preserve ceremonial sites from the Great Plains to the Rocky Mountains. Each site deserves our everlasting respect and protection.
But the U.S. House of Representatives is currently considering a bill that undermines the sanctity of these places and the sovereignty of Montana’s...
Trader Joe's Signs Deal with Tomato Workers →
jsex:
“After years of nudges, calls to action and protests, grocery chain Trader Joe’s has finally signed on to the Fair Food Agreement. Spearheaded by the Coalition of Immokalee Workers, it’s a major step forward in the decade-long campaign to improve working conditions for pickers in Florida, where nearly a third of the tomatoes that Americans eat are grown.
Trader Joe’s is only the second...
They might have a sliding scale. I'm hassling my...
Cuz I guess my endo is willing to take any insurance. So if my insurance is willing to cover then we’re golden.
I should check to see if he’ll just take straight medicaid too. I might be able to use my benefits card.
Shit I don't think my medicaid covers my...
And the one locally is a gatekeeping cissexist asshole. Fun fun.
Anonymous asked: Do you dislike the term "transphobia" proper or do you merely prefer "cissexism"?
humanpieceoftoast asked: O__O You're very hot! I've thought so for a number of years now! Also, thank you so much for everything you've written tonight, it's making me look very closely at a lot of the things I've experienced my whole life that I've thought were normal and probably weren't. I know that kind of thing isn't easy to talk about, so really, really, thank you. ♥
Dear me,
Stop feeling ugly.
Love, Me
PS: Listen to the people who tell you you’re hot.
mawarukame asked: Not everything is abuse to everyone. What I call parenting is what I call parenting, not "shit for you to call out". There's no set rule on good/bad parenting--only some generally agreed upon things. But whatever, it's done. I don't think it's something to argue over (especially at nearly 3am). Just a little irked by some of your word choice in the reblog is all.
Has anyone noticed that I love it when people tell...
Love it tons. Happens to me a lot as a queer trans woman too, not just in the disability world.
Made the ask rebloggable. Hopefully. Dammit,...
eateroftrees:
genderbitch:
I used autism as the best example of a neurodivergence that completely diverges from the needs of disorders and mental illnesses that have real internal pain to them. Thanks for assuming that was about you.
I’d previously mentioned that I was autistic to you and assumed you remembered this fact, sorry for the assumption.
Of course the fact that you think that...
She said it's cuz she missed all the holidays and...
So less yay.
Not that this is a surprise. I’ve been cut off a long time.
My mom gave me microwave popcorn.
This will be tomorrow’s breakfast. Also she gave me a walmart gift card as an xmas/birthday/etc present which I will be using to buy groceries so that I can not be stuck eating popcorn for lunch and dinner too.
Yay food!
yoctavias asked: Okay, thanks for sharing that. Because there are things from everyones past that are OBVIOUSLY abusive, like death threats, name calling, physical beatings, neglect etc. And when you are removed from that situation no one really tells you "Hey, this and this and this and this are all abuse. You were being abused." SO, now that I know thats not OKAY or NORMAL. Geez, thanks. lol
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yoctavias:
genderbitch:
yoctavias:
genderbitch:
yoctavias:
genderbitch:
But that doesn’t excuse this. This is still abuse. It’s still fucked up and it’s still wrong. Just as beating your child is wrong, just as locking your child outside in the cold is wrong, calling your child stupid and other awful names is wrong, brandishing a gun at your child is wrong, hitting…
I still don’t...
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yoctavias:
madgastronomer:
genderbitch:
yoctavias:
genderbitch:
But that doesn’t excuse this. This is still abuse. It’s still fucked up and it’s still wrong. Just as beating your child is wrong, just as locking your child outside in the cold is wrong, calling your child stupid and other awful names is wrong, brandishing a gun at your child is wrong, hitting…
I still don’t understand...
To expand off that ask about beating kids
Just cuz something happens in other cultures doesn’t mean it’s okay.
It does mean however that people outside those cultures need to keep back and only give help if it’s asked for by the people of those cultures who are fighting to fix their own issues.
So as to avoid nasty imperialist fuckery.
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yoctavias:
genderbitch:
yoctavias:
genderbitch:
But that doesn’t excuse this. This is still abuse. It’s still fucked up and it’s still wrong. Just as beating your child is wrong, just as locking your child outside in the cold is wrong, calling your child stupid and other awful names is wrong, brandishing a gun at your child is wrong, hitting…
I still don’t understand how that is abuse....
mawarukame asked: We can have differing opinions on parenting, but do not insult me in the process please.
Anonymous asked: You know, in some cultures "beating" your child is just the same as most Americans "grounding" theirs, and to be quite honest what is more effective? I was beat all sorts growing up and I never thought of it as abuse. It's made me a better person and I fully appreciate it.
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la1ka:
genderbitch:
yoctavias:
genderbitch:
But that doesn’t excuse this. This is still abuse. It’s still fucked up and it’s still wrong. Just as beating your child is wrong, just as locking your child outside in the cold is wrong, calling your child stupid and other awful names is wrong, brandishing a gun at your child is wrong, hitting…
I still don’t understand how that is abuse. If...
One example of that erasure fuckery I deal with...
When people talk ad nauseum about how neurodivergent people are just divergent and society just needs to change to accommodate us and make it more viable for us.
Um, my fucking depression will not get better regardless of whatever fucking changes are made in society, thanks. It’s a biochemical issue, the only way to help me is to help balance those chemicals.
And so a blanket application...
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goaquatic:
genderbitch:
yoctavias:
genderbitch:
But that doesn’t excuse this. This is still abuse. It’s still fucked up and it’s still wrong. Just as beating your child is wrong, just as locking your child outside in the cold is wrong, calling your child stupid and other awful names is wrong, brandishing a gun at your child is wrong, hitting…
I still don’t understand how that is abuse....
Made the ask rebloggable. Hopefully. Dammit,...
eateroftrees:
genderbitch:
eateroftrees
Uh they never actually STOPPED trying to ‘fix’ neurodivergent people; it’s sort of the norm to have people try to lock you up and drug you and brainwash you until you either are superficially normal or too drugged up to be a nuisance anymore
Yeah. I know. I think H was talking more about mental illness (the sort of mental illness where it isn’t so...
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yoctavias:
genderbitch:
But that doesn’t excuse this. This is still abuse. It’s still fucked up and it’s still wrong. Just as beating your child is wrong, just as locking your child outside in the cold is wrong, calling your child stupid and other awful names is wrong, brandishing a gun at your child is wrong, hitting…
I still don’t understand how that is abuse. If had destroyed the computer...
Oh also, as regards the gun toting abusive piece...
But that doesn’t excuse this. This is still abuse. It’s still fucked up and it’s still wrong. Just as beating your child is wrong, just as locking your child outside in the cold is wrong, calling your child stupid and other awful names is wrong, brandishing a gun at your child is wrong, hitting your child with a weapon is wrong and a host of other things worse than emptying a gun...
Made the ask rebloggable. Hopefully. Dammit,...
eateroftrees
Uh they never actually STOPPED trying to ‘fix’ neurodivergent people; it’s sort of the norm to have people try to lock you up and drug you and brainwash you until you either are superficially normal or too drugged up to be a nuisance anymore
Yeah. I know. I think H was talking more about mental illness (the sort of mental illness where it isn’t so much...
madgastronomer asked: Could you make your reply to the ask with the difference between neurodivergence and mental illness rebloggable? Because that is the distinction I've wanted to articulate for a while now.
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hamartophilia:
genderbitch:
hamartophilia:
genderbitch:
hamartophilia:
genderbitch:
hamartophilia:
genderbitch:
hamartophilia:
hamartophilia:
genderbitch:
hamartophilia:
genderbitch:
Excuse me? I’m mentally ill and I’d never do a goddamn thing like that. Don’t equate the mentally ill with abusive fucks, thanks.
Hey cool we’re both mentally ill, and so was my abusive...
mawarukame:
super-eklectic1:
karnythia:
moniquill:
goddessofcheese:
hamburgerjack:
hifi-superstar:
segastarlit:
rinlockhart:
little-chicle:
pah:
from this father’s message to his daughter
That guy had every right to do that to that laptop. FIVE STARS FOR THE BEST OLD SCHOOL DAD…he could’ve sold it to get back the money he used for the software he used on it before finding...
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sickwithjustice:
genderbitch:
hamartophilia:
Crazy, insane, ect. are such hard words to reclaim too, nearly impossible in my experience. I have not once been able to figure out how to use any of them in ways where they come across to others as positive? It’s fucking frustrating and adfaasdgw maybe if I knew how to use them where people wouldn’t see it as such a terrible thing, it would click...
If I tell you about my depression and you make a...
…I will choke you with my bootstraps. And if I don’t have any, I’ll find some to choke you with.
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hamartophilia:
genderbitch:
hamartophilia:
genderbitch:
hamartophilia:
genderbitch:
hamartophilia:
hamartophilia:
genderbitch:
hamartophilia:
genderbitch:
Excuse me? I’m mentally ill and I’d never do a goddamn thing like that. Don’t equate the mentally ill with abusive fucks, thanks.
Hey cool we’re both mentally ill, and so was my abusive shitbag brother who has the…
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eateroftrees asked: Uh they never actually STOPPED trying to 'fix' neurodivergent people; it's sort of the norm to have people try to lock you up and drug you and brainwash you until you either are superficially normal or too drugged up to be a nuisance anymore
eateroftrees asked: (sorry that ask was probably triggery >.< um if you haven't read it yet here's a warning)
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hamartophilia:
genderbitch:
hamartophilia:
genderbitch:
hamartophilia:
hamartophilia:
genderbitch:
hamartophilia:
genderbitch:
Excuse me? I’m mentally ill and I’d never do a goddamn thing like that. Don’t equate the mentally ill with abusive fucks, thanks.
Hey cool we’re both mentally ill, and so was my abusive shitbag brother who has the…
Same here, I was just baffled and...