February 2012
Dear me,
Stop feeling ugly.
Love, Me
PS: Listen to the people who tell you you’re hot.
mawarukame asked: Not everything is abuse to everyone. What I call parenting is what I call parenting, not "shit for you to call out". There's no set rule on good/bad parenting--only some generally agreed upon things. But whatever, it's done. I don't think it's something to argue over (especially at nearly 3am). Just a little irked by some of your word choice in the reblog is all.
Has anyone noticed that I love it when people tell...
Love it tons. Happens to me a lot as a queer trans woman too, not just in the disability world.
Made the ask rebloggable. Hopefully. Dammit,...
eateroftrees:
genderbitch:
I used autism as the best example of a neurodivergence that completely diverges from the needs of disorders and mental illnesses that have real internal pain to them. Thanks for assuming that was about you.
I’d previously mentioned that I was autistic to you and assumed you remembered this fact, sorry for the assumption.
Of course the fact that you think that...
She said it's cuz she missed all the holidays and...
So less yay.
Not that this is a surprise. I’ve been cut off a long time.
My mom gave me microwave popcorn.
This will be tomorrow’s breakfast. Also she gave me a walmart gift card as an xmas/birthday/etc present which I will be using to buy groceries so that I can not be stuck eating popcorn for lunch and dinner too.
Yay food!
yoctavias asked: Okay, thanks for sharing that. Because there are things from everyones past that are OBVIOUSLY abusive, like death threats, name calling, physical beatings, neglect etc. And when you are removed from that situation no one really tells you "Hey, this and this and this and this are all abuse. You were being abused." SO, now that I know thats not OKAY or NORMAL. Geez, thanks. lol
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yoctavias:
genderbitch:
yoctavias:
genderbitch:
yoctavias:
genderbitch:
But that doesn’t excuse this. This is still abuse. It’s still fucked up and it’s still wrong. Just as beating your child is wrong, just as locking your child outside in the cold is wrong, calling your child stupid and other awful names is wrong, brandishing a gun at your child is wrong, hitting…
I still don’t...
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yoctavias:
madgastronomer:
genderbitch:
yoctavias:
genderbitch:
But that doesn’t excuse this. This is still abuse. It’s still fucked up and it’s still wrong. Just as beating your child is wrong, just as locking your child outside in the cold is wrong, calling your child stupid and other awful names is wrong, brandishing a gun at your child is wrong, hitting…
I still don’t understand...
To expand off that ask about beating kids
Just cuz something happens in other cultures doesn’t mean it’s okay.
It does mean however that people outside those cultures need to keep back and only give help if it’s asked for by the people of those cultures who are fighting to fix their own issues.
So as to avoid nasty imperialist fuckery.
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yoctavias:
genderbitch:
yoctavias:
genderbitch:
But that doesn’t excuse this. This is still abuse. It’s still fucked up and it’s still wrong. Just as beating your child is wrong, just as locking your child outside in the cold is wrong, calling your child stupid and other awful names is wrong, brandishing a gun at your child is wrong, hitting…
I still don’t understand how that is abuse....
mawarukame asked: We can have differing opinions on parenting, but do not insult me in the process please.
Anonymous asked: You know, in some cultures "beating" your child is just the same as most Americans "grounding" theirs, and to be quite honest what is more effective? I was beat all sorts growing up and I never thought of it as abuse. It's made me a better person and I fully appreciate it.
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la1ka:
genderbitch:
yoctavias:
genderbitch:
But that doesn’t excuse this. This is still abuse. It’s still fucked up and it’s still wrong. Just as beating your child is wrong, just as locking your child outside in the cold is wrong, calling your child stupid and other awful names is wrong, brandishing a gun at your child is wrong, hitting…
I still don’t understand how that is abuse. If...
One example of that erasure fuckery I deal with...
When people talk ad nauseum about how neurodivergent people are just divergent and society just needs to change to accommodate us and make it more viable for us.
Um, my fucking depression will not get better regardless of whatever fucking changes are made in society, thanks. It’s a biochemical issue, the only way to help me is to help balance those chemicals.
And so a blanket application...
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goaquatic:
genderbitch:
yoctavias:
genderbitch:
But that doesn’t excuse this. This is still abuse. It’s still fucked up and it’s still wrong. Just as beating your child is wrong, just as locking your child outside in the cold is wrong, calling your child stupid and other awful names is wrong, brandishing a gun at your child is wrong, hitting…
I still don’t understand how that is abuse....
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eateroftrees:
genderbitch:
eateroftrees
Uh they never actually STOPPED trying to ‘fix’ neurodivergent people; it’s sort of the norm to have people try to lock you up and drug you and brainwash you until you either are superficially normal or too drugged up to be a nuisance anymore
Yeah. I know. I think H was talking more about mental illness (the sort of mental illness where it isn’t so...
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yoctavias:
genderbitch:
But that doesn’t excuse this. This is still abuse. It’s still fucked up and it’s still wrong. Just as beating your child is wrong, just as locking your child outside in the cold is wrong, calling your child stupid and other awful names is wrong, brandishing a gun at your child is wrong, hitting…
I still don’t understand how that is abuse. If had destroyed the computer...
Oh also, as regards the gun toting abusive piece...
But that doesn’t excuse this. This is still abuse. It’s still fucked up and it’s still wrong. Just as beating your child is wrong, just as locking your child outside in the cold is wrong, calling your child stupid and other awful names is wrong, brandishing a gun at your child is wrong, hitting your child with a weapon is wrong and a host of other things worse than emptying a gun...
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eateroftrees
Uh they never actually STOPPED trying to ‘fix’ neurodivergent people; it’s sort of the norm to have people try to lock you up and drug you and brainwash you until you either are superficially normal or too drugged up to be a nuisance anymore
Yeah. I know. I think H was talking more about mental illness (the sort of mental illness where it isn’t so much...
madgastronomer asked: Could you make your reply to the ask with the difference between neurodivergence and mental illness rebloggable? Because that is the distinction I've wanted to articulate for a while now.
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hamartophilia:
genderbitch:
hamartophilia:
genderbitch:
hamartophilia:
genderbitch:
hamartophilia:
genderbitch:
hamartophilia:
hamartophilia:
genderbitch:
hamartophilia:
genderbitch:
Excuse me? I’m mentally ill and I’d never do a goddamn thing like that. Don’t equate the mentally ill with abusive fucks, thanks.
Hey cool we’re both mentally ill, and so was my abusive...
mawarukame:
super-eklectic1:
karnythia:
moniquill:
goddessofcheese:
hamburgerjack:
hifi-superstar:
segastarlit:
rinlockhart:
little-chicle:
pah:
from this father’s message to his daughter
That guy had every right to do that to that laptop. FIVE STARS FOR THE BEST OLD SCHOOL DAD…he could’ve sold it to get back the money he used for the software he used on it before finding...
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sickwithjustice:
genderbitch:
hamartophilia:
Crazy, insane, ect. are such hard words to reclaim too, nearly impossible in my experience. I have not once been able to figure out how to use any of them in ways where they come across to others as positive? It’s fucking frustrating and adfaasdgw maybe if I knew how to use them where people wouldn’t see it as such a terrible thing, it would click...
If I tell you about my depression and you make a...
…I will choke you with my bootstraps. And if I don’t have any, I’ll find some to choke you with.
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hamartophilia:
genderbitch:
hamartophilia:
genderbitch:
hamartophilia:
genderbitch:
hamartophilia:
hamartophilia:
genderbitch:
hamartophilia:
genderbitch:
Excuse me? I’m mentally ill and I’d never do a goddamn thing like that. Don’t equate the mentally ill with abusive fucks, thanks.
Hey cool we’re both mentally ill, and so was my abusive shitbag brother who has the…
...
eateroftrees asked: Uh they never actually STOPPED trying to 'fix' neurodivergent people; it's sort of the norm to have people try to lock you up and drug you and brainwash you until you either are superficially normal or too drugged up to be a nuisance anymore
eateroftrees asked: (sorry that ask was probably triggery >.< um if you haven't read it yet here's a warning)
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hamartophilia:
genderbitch:
hamartophilia:
genderbitch:
hamartophilia:
hamartophilia:
genderbitch:
hamartophilia:
genderbitch:
Excuse me? I’m mentally ill and I’d never do a goddamn thing like that. Don’t equate the mentally ill with abusive fucks, thanks.
Hey cool we’re both mentally ill, and so was my abusive shitbag brother who has the…
Same here, I was just baffled and...
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hamartophilia:
genderbitch:
hamartophilia:
hamartophilia:
genderbitch:
hamartophilia:
genderbitch:
Excuse me? I’m mentally ill and I’d never do a goddamn thing like that. Don’t equate the mentally ill with abusive fucks, thanks.
Hey cool we’re both mentally ill, and so was my abusive shitbag brother who has the…
Same here, I was just baffled and horrified and it made me so...
abandontheships:
which part of being a parent says that your kids are supposed to owe you their eternal gratitude for providing basic food and shelter for them?
like
isn’t that part of the job description of being a parent? doing so if you’re able? how the fuck can you say that you love your kid and then explode at them because you just aren’t quite abusive enough yet for them to have to move...
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hamartophilia:
hamartophilia:
genderbitch:
hamartophilia:
genderbitch:
Excuse me? I’m mentally ill and I’d never do a goddamn thing like that. Don’t equate the mentally ill with abusive fucks, thanks.
Hey cool we’re both mentally ill, and so was my abusive shitbag brother who has the…
Same here, I was just baffled and horrified and it made me so angry and then I realized the video...
jesus christ just thinking about that video and...
abandontheships:
so reminds me of my dad
and is really, really fucking triggering
Yeah, reminds me of my abusive sperm donor too.
Tangent on self directed hate, abusers with mental...
hamartophilia:
genderbitch:
hamartophilia:
genderbitch:
Excuse me? I’m mentally ill and I’d never do a goddamn thing like that. Don’t equate the mentally ill with abusive fucks, thanks.
Hey cool we’re both mentally ill, and so was my abusive shitbag brother who has the same mental illness as me when he shoved my face into a 25 inch CRV monitor, breaking the screen, when I was 14. I still...
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hamartophilia:
genderbitch:
Excuse me? I’m mentally ill and I’d never do a goddamn thing like that. Don’t equate the mentally ill with abusive fucks, thanks.
Hey cool we’re both mentally ill, and so was my abusive shitbag brother who has the same mental illness as me when he shoved my face into a 25 inch CRV monitor, breaking the screen, when I was 14. I still have some issues to work...
AND ANOTHER THING...
abandontheships:
every-inch-but-one:
whencylonsdream:
sickwithjustice:
liquorinthefront:
I really hate discrimination within the queer community. Like when lesbians get pissed off if transmen come to ladies nights and such. THERE’S ALREADY ENOUGH DISCRIMINATION AIMED AT US FROM THE REST OF THE WORLD. There’s no need for us to discriminate against each other. LOVE > HATE.
Also, thanks...
I'm loopy right now from a sugar crash so things I...
Also sleep depriviation. That’s causing problems too.
The Cycle of Transmisogyny
autumn-and-eve:
The CAMAB trans person’s gender identity is erased, and they are viewed as a man
Being a man, they are held to binarist standards of masculinity
Being that they present themselves in a feminine manner, their masculinity is nonexistent
As a male’s masculinity (or, perceived male’s) is fundamental to his legitimacy, the CAMAB trans person is debased and marginalized.
When a...
Can someone invent a way to just burn an addiction...
That would be awesome, thanks.
I miss drinking really badly and wanna drink...
And hate that I miss it and want it because I was destroying my life with it.
thecurvature:
grrspit:
And in fact, I know a few people who aren’t even of that size or color or culture who have successfully defended themselves against men and have been labelled the aggressor. But you know, they weren’t the “perfect” victims so it wasn’t right for them to fight back.
See also, much of the rhetoric involving the Eminem/Rihanna video where the lower-class white couple...
Also, about Jezebel's alibi
so-treu:
cupcakesnotbombs:
redlightpolitics:
They claim they are not a feminist site as the reason why they post “controversial” stuff, which is fair enough, if their business model is better served by distancing themselves from feminism, I believe it’s their prerogative. However, Jessica Coen had no problem being featured as one of the “new faces of feminism” in her role as EIC of...
'Blow away' text lands Muslim in jail
rcabbasi:
MONTREAL — A Muslim businessman in Canada became a terror suspect for telling his sales staff in a text message to “blow away” the competition at a New York City trade show, a religious association said Friday.
Moroccan-born Saad Allami, who works as a telecommunications company sales manager, was arrested three days after he sent the message in January 2011 and detained while police...
I feel a lot better. I'm gonna try to get resume...
Hell, I might even write more fiction too.
theoceanandthesky:
witchsistah:
theoceanandthesky:
i’m dying over this person who’s like “yr just being obnoxious now.” like, no one even was talking about White people in that post though. it was only about how we felt growing up surrounded by White princesses. nobody SAID ANYTHING ABOUT ACTUAL WHITE PEOPLE.
y’all are hilarious.
It’s simply this:
“ Let me explain this by giving you an...